As I get older I am finding I don’t cope with things like I used to.Maureen Lipman was interviewed on T V a couple of weeks ago and she admitted the same which made me feel a bit better!I worry about things I would have taken in my stride a few years ago.We are away for Christmas at our son’s so don’t have to fret about cooking etc then but our daughter ,husband and two granddaughters are coming for New Year and staying for a few nights.Our son may be coming to stay this week.In the past I would have looked forward to these things but now they all come with a bit of dread.Will I be able to cope? I am sure I shall.
Any of you good people out there feel a bit like me?I would love to know.Any tips?
You are not alone. I have been a really good coper all of my life and have had to deal with Tom's illness for years, also bringing up 3 children, all done without batting an eye. Now, I'm a wreck if anything untoward comes up and I also have been wondering what is going on. I think its just an ageing thing.
ReplyDeleteI didn't think that getting old was going to be so difficult did you? lol
Briony
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I empathise with you entirely. Like Briony above, I used to be able to cope with anything life threw at us, but this year I've also been a nervous wreck. Had a bit of a mini meltdown this morning over something quite trivial and ended up shouting and stamping about...which strangely enough was quite cathartic and I felt a lot better afterwards. So my advice is to have a bit of a paddy!
ReplyDeleteAt times like those I use my tried and trusted recipes. Get a batch of soup in the fridge and a couple of cakes that work as puddings and call it a day. It should be about spending quality time together not being a Domestic Goddess. If the grands are not too young get them involved, they may just love it.
ReplyDeleteOh don't say that, I've been a worrier all my life, I don't want to get any worse as I get older, ha ha.
ReplyDeleteAn age thing definitely. I prefer it now my doings have lessened and go into a flat spin if I am not in control.
ReplyDeleteI feel the same, anxieties about the smallest things especially between 2am and 4am, I've had three disturbed nights in a row because we've had to travel quite a way to visit relatives. Recently we had friends come over so decided to treat them to lunch out rather than cook. I just made a cake to have with tea later in the day. I'm sure all will be well and you will have a great time:)
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ReplyDeleteI never felt anxiety like I have in this past year. I'm not sure if it's age or what but I do tend to worry more than I ever have before. Sometimes a feeling of unease or dread or even guilt will come over me for no apparent reason. It's very unsettling at times. For sure you will be able to cope, especially now that you've talked about it and released those feelings. Take care!
ReplyDeletePeople who come to visit be it family or friends do not want to add to the stress. We find that it is often a good idea to allocate tasks especially when it comes to food. Ask each of them to take on the role of either, buying, cooking and clearing up, doing on of those tasks or all. People like to feel involved and being given a role means they are included. Sometimes visitors do not help fo fear of treading on toes but if it is all shared out and tasks given then everyone knows where they stand. Sending warm gentle hugs x
ReplyDeleteI've worried and stressed all my life until retirement. Now I think that each day is a blessing so I'd better enjoy it. If you're not prepared then you're not prepared. No sweat. Just try your best and enjoy your guests.
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